Non-Violent Communication (Compassionate Communication) – Empathizers work constantly to become more fluent in “giraffe language” – the language of the heart, to connect deeply to all beings through recognizing their feelings and needs. We do not judge the strategies you use to meet your needs as good or bad, rather we ask if they serve life for you. You are the judge of this, not the empathizer. Finally, we give you the autonomy to choose the best strategies that will meet your needs.
We have do not exercise “power over” clients in any fashion. We do not claim to know what will be the best strategies for you. One you receive empathy and understanding as we define it, we believe that the ideal strategies will simply come to you. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Non-Violent Communication, derived his knowledge from his Ph.D in clinical psychology (empathyology) and from comparative religion (empatheology). Science + Spirit come together to create a more eclectic practice called Empath*ology that has paved the way for peaceful conversations, understanding, and meeting needs in a synergistic way.
A friend shared a definition of the word “humility” that we think really describes our service.
Humility is the ability to see a person’s needs and then act in ways to meet those needs when practical.
We strive to act with humility. Sometimes it may not be practical to act on a request, other times it may be. Saying no and the needs behind the no can help us connect in consensual and mutually beneficial ways. Each session will be completely unique and the consent of all parties involved remains a crucial part of carrying out the Empath*ology practice
Human Scale Development – Needs
Manfred Max Neef’s “Human Scale Development” – instead of using the needs from Marshall’s NVC book, I choose to use Neef’s 9 fundamental human needs of: Sustenance, Protection, Affection, Understanding, Participation, Idleness, Creation, Identity, and Freedom. The goal of Human Scale Development is to empower the impoverished to become the subject of their own development as opposed to becoming the object that those in power try to develop on their own through programs and large bureaucratic institutions.
Each empathizer will have some foundation of yoga practice or training. Many empathizers will be certified yoga teachers, and others will be practitioners and students. All empathizers will have the ability to lead a guided meditation, to instruct simple or possibly complex yoga poses, and to practice the principles of ahimsa – non-harm to sentient beings. Whatever the level of experience, each empathizer will have knowledge of at least 3 different simple yoga poses aimed at satisfying the different needs mentioned above.
Speciesism – up until now, Neef’s needs have been applied strictly to humans. Empath*ology acknowledges that animals, and even plants, share fundamental needs and possibly feelings if we look deeply for them. Empath*ology hopes to bridge the gap between humans and other species, because each living organism requires subsistence and will thrive when their needs are met. Empath*ology can be used to improve relationships among others, ourselves, and other humans, but it can also be used to better understand our pets, plants, and mushrooms that we may grow for food or decoration. Getting in touch with fundamental needs of all beings is the main goal of the practice and is reflected in the Empath*ology model.
The Nature Principle
The Nature Principle by Richard Louv – the physical building where EMPATHIZERS will work must contain some sort of life centered or Biophilic design. Bio means life and Philic means love. Humans and animals love life and flourish when living plants surround them. Plants can also benefit from having humans around creating a truly synergistic relationship. Those who practice Empath*ology owe it to themselves and their clients to ensure that the environment is one that helps meet human needs.
Job Characteristic Theory
Job Characteristic Theory – Here at Empa-Tea, we strive to ensure that our EMPATHIZERS have adequate opportunity for:
- Sense of Completion
- Variety of activities performed
- Meaningful Contribution
I encourage others to share this knowledge through creating their own democratic micro-institutions that promote the satisfaction of fundamental needs with the intention of considering all beings’ needs through our actions. Empowering the clients and the EMPATHIZERS to meet their own needs and act in a self-full way, will spread the movement and create wellbeing in the community at large.
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